I have prayed that you will put God even before your marriage! God will not remove or take away our free will and you and your spouse have free will…. Therefore do as the scriptures say! Seek first the Kingdom of God and then all else will be given to you!
And as you do don’t push it in your spouses face that you are going to church or helping the church or what ever you do…. Go humbly before God!
Please get the book “Love Dare”. Then do as it says and do it one day at a time… It did not happen overnight that your marriage is having troubles and it will not be fixed overnight…. Do the dare one day at a time and make sure to read all of the scriptures contained in the book!
Another help is the Book and DVD series called “Love and Respect” by Dr’s Eggerichs… They also have study groups you can join!
May God be with you and your spouse as you continue to serve Him!